Was I abusive?

I used to get ignored by XN and then I'd get so overwhelmingly frustrated that I would end up sending him 20 texts and make myself look like the unbalanced one.

He could then respond with: "you know I can't cope with all of this", giving him an ideal excuse to back off, and he'd usually call me a bully and abusive and all the rest of it. I was left screaming inside.