The obsession with golf

Mine was obsessed with golf.

All his money went on golf and clothes.

He used to take time off work during the week to play golf but that meant he worked all weekend to get his work done so he could take the time off....which meant he wasn't around to spend time with me at the weekend. And he would lie about it. Once he came to stay at mine during the week and said he was on a course the following day. I asked who with and he said his team in work.

Then he stupidly left his mobile on my bed (seriously! He accused me of checking his phone but I never had at this point) with a text message on screen from a guy in IT he used to play golf with saying "see you at the club at ten, mate". I went downstairs and said "is D in your team at work?" and he bluffed. Then I asked if his course was at a golf course and he bluffed some more before getting angry because I'd found him out.

All this because he'd arranged to play golf that day which meant he'd had to work at the weekend. When I asked him why he lied he said "because I knew you would react like this!" I said, "yeah, I'm reacting like this because you lied!" but of course he maintained that I was mad because he'd was going off to play golf and that he was right to lie.....what a nutcase.

He once said to me that he couldn't buy me a birthday present until the following month because he didn't have any money. He was earning about £50k a year, and was living almost rent free at his parents (paying only about £200 a month to live there).

He kept a list of what he'd spent his money on so I asked him where his money had gone that month.

He threw the list at me and said "there - you look for yourself!" After he'd finished his tantrum he told me that in that month he'd spent £700 on golf clubs and another £700 on he didn't know what - coffees and take away food.

So he couldn't get me a birthday present!

My therapist asked what sports/activities with other guys. I said he played golf and she asked who with - she was trying to establish if he had any friends or if he mingled with guys of his own age. I said he played with his uncle or on his own. He joined a golf club costing £1500 and used to play on his own as he had no-one else to play with.

The golfing season will be over soon. Ha ha. Then he really won't know what to do with himself. He'll have to sit in his flat in the evenings looking at porn instead.