I've been doing so well! NC will be 8 weeks this Friday, no dipping for ~6 weeks of that time.
But I am finding myself more and more tempted to check his facebook activities (not that I can see a lot but I can see who his friends are and what he's been saying on other friends' pages).
I don't know why I want to do it. When I did it before, I saw stuff that did actually make me feel better for going NC. He looked a pathetic loser and he was obviously on facebook a lot. Before, when he was with me, he wasn't registered on it til I persuaded him to join, and even then he barely used it (had no friends to interact with!). When I dipped I saw that he was clearly on there more because he was lonely and was trying to garner new NS.
I remember staring at the photo of one of his work colleagues, a girl with long, dark hair (I have long dark hair - that seemed to be his "type") and wondering if she would have been his next 'victim'. It was after obsessing about her for about 10 minutes one night that I went on the chatroom and others told me that I would feel worse after I dipped than I did before.
And I haven't since. Nothing.
But now I am weakening and I really don't know why. Reassurance that he really is the saddo that I thought he was?
I know it would be gutting to see any indication that he has moved on with someone else. My instinct tells me that he hasn't; not because he's not over me, but because he has such poor social skills and people saw him as a bit weird (past behaviour being a good predictor of future behaviour and all that) that I find it highly unlikely that he'll have been able to charm someone else so quickly. (He didn't charm me in the beginning - he was rubbish!)
I think that, if I saw any indication that he had got someone else, then it might make me question if he wasn't the depressed, miserable, self-absorbed idiot that I thought he was.
When I look back at his life, I know that he was miserable and lonely for most of it. He's had very few relationships and they were relatively short lived. I know that anything I see on his page would be fake. I don't know why I feel the need to check it and reaffirm to myself that this is the case.
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