Always my fault!

I remembered this morning that when he was at mine or with me, XN - who was this smart, intellectual man, was forever breaking wind and often I catch him with his finger up his nose.

I didn't mind either that much but it did feel disrespectful. I knew that he wouldn't do either in front of a girl he was trying to impress.

So if I asked him to try and control himself a bit better in front of me, guess what he'd say:

"It's the food I eat at your's - it's too rich"!

So even his poor control of his bodily functions, like a little boy's, was MY FAULT because of the food I gave him!!


Mine was (wrongly in my opinion) diagnosed with a "stress disorder" when he saw a CBT therapist. I don't know what his psychologist decided he had but she told him it wasn't Asperger's.

Anyway, he loved having this "stress disorder" label to throw at me whenever I needed anything. And not long before I went NC, he told me that he was about to ring his mum to get her to take him food shopping.

He decided that he couldn't face going to the supermarket and thinking about what to eat (he'd moved out of his mum and dad's a few months before) as it was all just too stressful.

What a load of cr@p! When he came to stay with me for a weekend, he'd quite happily (well - relative for a miserable N) go off food shopping and buy us some meals for the weekend. Plus he's managing to hold down a job earning him about £53k with a lot of responsibility.

Yet all of a sudden he decides that he needs his mum to take him to buy food.

I didn't buy that BS off him though I gave him sympathy at the time. I also told him not to call her for help as he would only beat himself up about it afterwards.

Someone please tell me what I saw in this "man"??!!